I have the privelege to work in the secular world and serve the Lord in ministry as well. Although right now I am taking a season off from Church planting and doing any kind of major ministry. Working in the secular world is not always easy. Many times you don't get the respect you desire from your bosses and the people around you. Many don't follow the same biblical moral code that we strive to follow when dealing with subnoridantes. There is a biblical mandate on giving respect to those we follow and lead. Whether you have a Christian boss or not or whether you lead with respect or not; God does not show favorites he will bring his judgment upon our lives.
Ephesians 6:9 Masters, treat your slaves with respect. Don't threaten a slave. You know that there is one master in heaven who has authority over both of you, and he doesn't play favorites.
As leaders in the secular world and in the body of Christ we are commanded to treat those who work for us or those who we lead with respect. We shouldn't threaten them or put undue hardship on them. We are to treat the people we lead with the same love and attention that the living God gives us. It does not mean we should not be stern or blunt at times. It does mean we should help develop the ones we lead. Honoring them and respecting their individuality. It means having a relationship with them where he or she can speak freely without worry of retaliation. It is our human nature to retaliate towards those who question our authority. Leaders who do this are shallow leaders and probably not leaders anyway. A leader is secure and confident in their calling and giftings. There will be times when it is challenged but a good leader will weigh out each situation with wisdom and understanding. I always try to create a blunt environment with those I have been privileged to lead. Each one knows he or she can come to me and unload their heart whether it is right or not. Now they also know that I will challenge their thoughts when warranted , and we will talk it out from there.
Giving mutual respect as leader is so important. When people see that you value their opinion or that you truly care about their thoughts on a particular subject. He or she will follow you to the moon and back. Everyone wants to feel important to everyone. There is an adherent desire to feel needed and respected. God instilled this thought process within us. He gave it to Adam and Eve, and it has been passed down to everyone since.
What is respect anyway? Respect is the condition of being esteemed or honored: to be held in respect. Respect is like a boomerang. If you throw it out to others it will come back to you.
There are different levels of Respect in regards to leading others and in building relationships.
1. Level 1 Respect. This is the basic level of respect that every believer should give to each other. We are all commanded to love one another and to pray for each other. This is the basic tenent of Respect. Everyone gets this freely and it is the starting point for higher levels of respect.
I'm not concerned with your liking or disliking me... All I ask is that you respect me as a human being.
2. Level 2 Respect. This level of respect is built from Level 1 through relationships. You more you get to know the person; the more respect is given. Circumstances arise where trust is demonstrated and dependability is acquired.
I want to be very close to someone I respect and admire and have somebody who feels the same way about me.
3. Level 3 Respect. This level of respect is built from deep rooted relationships and common understanding of each other. You understand each other. You have this deep connection with the person. If he or she has a bad day or an off day; your more understanding because your level of respect is at an all time high. At this level of respect , you will see signs of Honor given. We should all be willing to cross the divide to reach this level of respect for each other.
Go up close to your friend, but do not go over to him! We should also respect the enemy in our friend.
1. Value the person regardless if the conversation comes out wrong.
2. Start everyone off at level 1 respect and build from that point. Every house must have a good foundation.
3. Teach those you lead about respect by word and deed.
4. Live a life of distributed respect. You give it to others and it is returned to you.
5. You every circumstance as a means to build a healthy level of respect.
Romans 12:10 Be devoted to each other like a loving family. Excel in showing respect for each other.
I love you all,